Rags Against The Machine
I'm a slim woman in my early 40s -- successful in my field -- and I am always in jeans, a vintage ripped t-shirt, and boots. I mean, ALWAYS. Granted, I have an extremely expensive handbag and perfectly highlighted blonde hair, and I always wear winged eyeliner. My friends say that going "underdressed" like this is disrespectful and inappropriate for (corporate-type) business meetings. Are they right, or is rocking your own thing no matter what a sign of confidence? (P.S. I'd kill myself before I'd wear a blazer.)
--Punk Rock Corporate
There's actually something to be said for a person who goes into an important business meeting dressed like one of their LinkedIn endorsements is "Aggressive Panhandling."
Sure, to a lot of people, it looks like career suicide in progress. However, research by Harvard Business School's Francesca Gino suggests that rebelling against norms for business attire can make you come off as higher status than people who dress all junior CEO.
Gino ran a number of experiments that led her to this conclusion, but my favorite is from a seminar on negotiations she taught at Harvard to two different groups of bigwigs in business, government and philanthropy. For each session, she dressed in the requisite "business boring" -- a dark blue Hugo Boss suit and a white silk blouse. But then, for her second session, she paired this outfit with a pair of red Converse high-tops. As she made her way to the classroom, a few fellow professors did give her the WTF-eye. However, seminar participants, surveyed after each session, guessed that she was higher in status and had a pricier consulting rate when she was wearing the red sneaks.
Gino explains that a person who is seen to be deliberately violating workplace wardrobe norms sends a message that they are so powerful that they can shrug off the potential costs of not following convention.
Anthropologists and zoologists call this a costly signal: a trait or behavior that's so wastefully extravagant and/or survival-threatening that only the highest-quality, most mojo-rific people or critters could afford to display it. This, in turn, suggests to observers (whether predators or predatory executives) that it's more likely to be legit -- and not false advertising.
So, it seems your dressing all hobo honcho could actually ramp up your status in others' eyes. And let's say someone suspects you're dressing this way because you've lost it on some level -- psychologically or financially. Gino writes in her book "Rebel Talent" that to signal status, it's critical that people believe an individual is "consciously choosing not to conform" and willing to assume the possible costs of that. Well, with that pricey handbag (plus the megabucks highlights and Instagram influencer winged eyeliner), you swat away any suspicions that your poorgeoisie-wear reflects actual impoverishment. Just don't be surprised if, post-meeting, as you're making a call on a bench outside the building, two kindly old ladies drop a Ziploc in your lap with socks, a granola bar, and directions to the nearest shelters.
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There’s a lot of space between ripped T with Jeans and boring Blazer.
Even with winged eyeliner and maintained highlights, the LW’s overall look could read as sloppy or not professional. Plus, and I’m feeling this transition myself as I enter my late-30s, wearing more youthful/very casual clothing ages you in a professional environment and makes you look dumpier than the 20-something who could pull off the same outfit flawlessly. Aaaand ... if LW hasn’t updated her clothing in a while, the cut of T shirt, style of jeans and style of boots could look dated and out of touch. The haircut may also be dated, I don’t know.
Fashion risks (like a red shoe or statement item) work only if the choice is deliberate and not just lazy/habit. See also: my husband bitching about why can’t he wear ripped Walmart jeans to a nice dinner when “that guy from Queer Eye” wears ripped jeans.
YMMV, obviously, depending on city LW lives in and her field. I’ve worked places where Crocs and PJs were OK.
If LW is doing well financially but getting lots of comments from people on her field , maybe a style consultant is in order to help her find a way to use a classic T/Jeans look but elevate it to look like a boss.
sofar at June 5, 2019 10:16 AM
Depends on the industry and other factors like those sofar mentioned.
NicoleK at June 5, 2019 12:39 PM
There's a difference between tweaking a staple of the professional dress and ignoring those conventions entirely. Underdressing or overdressing only works if it's recognizable as an inflection of the expected attire.
The LW's working in a setting where people will tolerate jeans and a t-shirt and maybe even think she's cool. But there are many settings where that would only signal that she's out of her element and doesn't understand what's expected of her.
Because that's really what appropriate business attire is meant to convey. That you know where you are, who you're with, what your role is, and what the standards and expectations of you are. It's not so much a fashion statement as a way of communicating your competency.
JJ at June 6, 2019 2:49 PM
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