My sister and her second ex-husband used to call each other Pookie all the time. I'm really glad that one ended.

Usually when someone tells me they married their "best friend" I get suspect of the relationship's true depth.
It seems to coincide with the couple who call each other " sweetie" and so on. By not using their spouse's name are they making them an object to project upon? Who knows.It just seems like it is mired in BS.

I tell people you know when your relationship is going to be for the long haul? The day you quit threatening to leave and you threaten to stay forever.

After working in mental health I have learned whatever is shown outwardly is typically the opposite of what is going on inwardly.

After working in mental health I have learned whatever is shown outwardly is typically the opposite of what is going on inwardly.

So the ones who beat the shit out of each other are the ones who love each other the most? The couple who treat one another with respect and gaze lovingly into each others' eyes are inwardly seething with hatred?

If your work with the mentally ill has really twisted your sense of reality to this point, please find another line of work.

After working in mental health I have learned whatever is shown outwardly is typically the opposite of what is going on inwardly.

Beth is right -- this is nuts.

I show Gregg how I feel about him by being sweet to him. But, if I really cared...I'd be cold and dissmissive?

My "dear" husband calls me "honey - bunny". I f-cking hate it. I am not an alternative to sugar, nor am I a rabbit. I'd be fine with just the "honey" once in a while. And no, I really don't have any nicknames for him.

I rarely use my loved one's names. In fact, if I am, I'm probably peturbed. Unless, of course, talking about them to someone else or to them in front of someone. Hasn't hurt my sex life any, with any BF.

Women think they can save a sex life by acting a certain way.

Basically, men get bored humping the same woman over and over again. Compound the problem by getting older.

I wish there was a happy answer to this.

We have demonized normal male behavior, but that is only an answer for women, not for men. Fantasies about your hubbie will really want you, if you wear some perfume, and don;t tell poo-poo jokes....please.

Would women want to have sex on the spot with a sewer worker, if he said he said he had a big dick? That's a male fantasy, but I don't expect women to get on board. Why do women think we like your fantasies?

I think much more acceptance and respect for sex workers, and a strict "don't ask, don't tell" policy is advisable, if we really want to save monogamous marriages.

"and don;t tell poo-poo jokes....please. "

OK I promise, providing you not use infantile terms like "poo-poo."

I was unaware that "poo-poo" is an infantile term, especially in the context.

Okay, "you can wear perfume, and not tell any ka-ka jokes, and your hubbie of 10 years will still want to boink the cute girl next door."

My 80-year-old uncle used the term "ka-ka," he of medical degree, and home filled with world-class art, and an orchard of exotic fruit out back.

Ain't no way you can tell me that "ka-ka" is infantile.

i have no idea how men feel about it, but calling me schmoopie will certain keep me from wanting to have sex with the offender.

The title of the book basically implies that the women in question are calling their husband a name instead of having sex. So in that sense, the title is dead on. :) I mean, why else it is "and START having sex?"

I used to call my lady "sweetheart" almost exclusively. If I was talking to someone else I always used the term "My Lady" with the expressed idea that it was with respect, not possessive.

I actually had a women ask me that -- when I explained it, she thought it was sweet.

We had as good a sex life as we could.

My ex-gf, I called "Wonderful". She never complained about it. It was a good relationship that I will never regret. (We're still friends and she just went her way.)

The super cutesy terms of endearment I will never use. To me that is reducing the the other person and shows that you don't respect them.

I find if you want to depart from a woman, but want ti to be her idea, start sweetly calling her "Bunghole."

Say it affectionately, and defend by saying, "That's how I think of you now. It is deeply erotic, no?"

Soon, you will be homefree!

No, calling your partner 'honey' does not kill your sex life. But not having sex, does.

I used to call my first wife boogerwumpus. I thought it was endearing. But, we had other problems. My real wife of 25 years and I, call each other nothing except our names. It seems to work for us.

"Honey" is a sexy word in my world, used only at special times.

This is great conversation. I am referred to solely by endearments by my SO. Finally, one day, I said, "I have a name, please use it!" Alas, to no avail. I don't know why this irritates me, but the relationship has been on the rocks for a long time and shows no signs of recovery. Sigh. Somehow, I feel devalued by never being addressed by my name! Somehow, it seems sloppy rather than romantic, or, I suppose that is what I'm enquiring about - how others feel about it. Good site. Thank you!