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Her Husband Had Sex With Her When She Was 10
CNN writes about this like it's some anomaly -- the 10-year-old girl in Yemen, married to a man three times her age, who, she says, routinely beat and raped her:

"I didn't want to sleep with him, but he forced me to. He hit me, insulted me."

As she plays marbles with her brothers and sister, Nujood is a portrait of innocence, with a shy smile and a playful nature.

But what happened evokes anger and shame. Asked if what she went through was torture, she nods quietly.

... Nujood's parents, like so many others in Yemen, struck a social bargain when they decided to have their daughter wed. More than half of all Yemeni girls are married off before the age of 18, according to Oxfam International, a nonprofit group that fights global poverty and injustice.

Many times girls are forced to marry older men, including some who already have at least one wife, Oxfam said. According to tribal customs, the girls are no longer viewed as a financial or moral burden to their parents.

"There is always a fear that the girl will do something to dishonor the family: She will run away with a guy, she will have relations with a boy. So this is always the phobia that the families have," said Suha Bashren of Oxfam International.

...The Yemeni government is holding legal and religious workshops to try to deal with the issue of early marriage. But experts say marrying off a young daughter is generally still seen as the right thing to do.

"A lot of people in the public don't think that this is wrong or that what happened to her was abuse," Bashren said.

And for good reason. Here's the comment I left on CNN's site:

The Quran talks about how Muhammed married his wife Aisha when she was six and had sex with her when she was nine, and Muslims believe whatever Muhammed did is correct and right and to be emulated.

It isn't just custom in Yemen that is the problem; it is Islam itself that is the root of the problem.

Moreover, if women, in Islam, weren't seen (as per Quran dictates) as little more than objects for men, with half the rights of a man, and all the charming rest, they might actually become full people with jobs, and maybe even careers...and thus not need to be sold off like an object to some dirty old fucker.

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I remember reading Sold when I was much younger than I am now.

http://www.amazon.com/Sold-Womans-Account-Modern-Slavery/dp/0751509515/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_b

So for CNN to be reporting this like it's a random and sparse occurrence is just ridiculous.

It makes me sad that anyone could even begin to think that this is in any way acceptable.

Posted by: may at July 17, 2008 9:38 AM

This is a way of life there, and anybody who says Islam is good for women should go to rehab and kick the habit.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at July 17, 2008 9:51 AM

Now Amy why are you posting about this?

Dont you know women in this country have real problems?

Like road constructions signs saying "MEN" working instead or "PEOPLE" working?

Posted by: lujlp at July 17, 2008 10:35 AM

And yet, there are many in The West who would condemn you for condemning this horrible practice. Why? Because you're not opening your mind to understanding the multicultural diversity of it. You're viewing this through the lens of your own culture and making the implicit assumption that your culture is superior to that of Yemen.

Sick, sick, sick.

Posted by: Robert W. at July 17, 2008 11:54 AM

I bet NAMBLA is OK with this (except for the gender part).

Posted by: Chrissy at July 17, 2008 12:57 PM

I threw up a little in my mouth when I read that they're holding "workshops" to "deal with the issue."

Posted by: Elle at July 17, 2008 3:41 PM

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