Is It Racist If I Say This?
Are there certain conversations and observations that are off limits for certain people? Take this thing here, below. Is it racist, if I, a white girl, say it?
There is a crisis, to understate the matter, in the black community. About 75 percent (more in some cities) of black babies in the U.S. are born out-of-wedlock. That women should keep their legs closed until marriage is considered a naïve notion at best and a sexist/oppressive one at worst. Subversive is what it is.
Some people are offended by the expression "keep your legs closed." Is it vulgar? Perhaps, but so is having babies with several different men without being married to any of them.
Confession: I actually didn't say the above. LaShawn Barber, who is not an "African-American" woman, but a BLACK woman, did. I've read her stuff over the years, and I thought I would link to/post some of it -- after the 600ish comments I had around midnight Tuesday night, accusing me of being a racist for suggesting that black leaders should condemn the behavior of women like Tarika Wilson, and for my suggestion that being around drug dealers puts oneself and one's children at risk.
Wilson, for the uninitiated, is the Ohio woman who was accidentally shot in a police raid on her house. At 26, she'd already had six children in eight years with five different drug dealer "daddies," and had taken up with yet another drug dealer boyfriend.
Do you have a problem with that behavior? If not, why not?
Here's a bit of a comment I made in the wee hours on Wednesday morning, in response to a commenter I'm now calling Bubbles, because he seems intentionally slow-witted (in his continuing attempt to get me to say I'm racist and my blog posting is racist). I wrote:
But, wait: if I use "litter" to describe a white woman's children, is that racist?
I'm well-aware of the meaning of words, Bubbles. I simply refuse to write like a white woman who is terrified of being accused of being racist.
The problem with all of you accusing me of being racist is really that.
I use "litter" to describe the children of Catholic women and rich women and Muslim women in other blog posts here. It's about the number of the children not the race, religion, or socioeconomic background of the women.
The issue: The more children you have, the less care and attention you can give them. This is especially the case if you are a woman who is not married or in a longterm relationship with the children's daddy. It goes downhill from there when the children have multiple "daddies," all of whom are drug dealers.
Do none of you understand the value of a father in a child's life?
Here's more, from a LaShawn Barber blog item about an article by John Derbyshire. I particularly liked the way she started -- noting how calling somebody racist is a conversation ender; a way of knocking them down in lieu of intelligently discussing an issue. A whole lot of that going on here the other day!
Commenters who call anyone a racist in this comment thread -- Derbyshire, other commenters, etc. -- will be deleted. If you don't see your comment, that's why. Second offense, banned. Long time readers know I don't allow it. (Amy underline) It's a conversation killer used to intimidate and an easy way to avoid challenging an argument. If you don't know how to fomulate and articulate one, learn or leave.
I've banned only maybe four commenters since I've been blogging. Two, I believe, posted in other real people's names, pretending to be them. Two were just as annoying as fuck and nobody could take them anymore. Still, Barber's right about the racism label.
Without stable families supporting, teaching, disciplining, and loving, the road to life success for any child is very difficult to navigate, though not impossible. With obvious disregard for marrying before having babies and the apparent acceptance of out-of-control crime rates -and charges of racism and "self-hater" against anyone who expresses such facts -- black as a group will never reach levels of achievement they could have reached had the promise of the Civil Rights movement carried over to subsequent generations. High moral character, strong families, hard work, educational attainment, and self-sacrifice for future generations -- these are vital to any race of people.
Thanks, LaShawn. Somebody's got to say it, and apparently, I'm just not tan enough.