45 Plus 21 Equals Bad Bargain
I just posted a new Advice Goddess column -- one about a married liar. He's 45. The girl he's been dating for three-and-a-half years is 21. Do the math.

What the column doesn't include is information I found out in my correspondence with the girl -- that she got pregnant at 15 by some other older guy. And if you guessed that she was yet another daddyless teenager, you'd be right. That's what daddyless girls do -- look for daddy in every scumbag with a five-o'clock shadow who pops up.

Oh, and did I mention that the guy is a one-man welfare-state, supporting a bunch of mooch relatives, and the girl thinks she's going to have children (plural!) with him?

Naturally, she tells me not to consider her age in the answer. An excerpt from my answer, in which I show how well I take direction in how to answer from those who write me for advice:

At 21, being "very mature" for your age makes you less likely to end up on the Internet, naked and compromised, so corporate recruiters can lean across the table on job fair day and whisper, "So, tell me...were you in business school on a gymnastics scholarship?"

A few years back, you probably just missed taking a married, middle-aged dad to prom. Even if you were "mature" for your age, at 17 your greatest accomplishment is something like getting a handle on your pimples. Ask yourself what man in his 40s finds a 17-year-old girl his peer, his partner, his equal? Probably one who knows better than to hit on all-growed-up women who'd be quick to notice he doesn't just have baggage, but a caravan of broken-down U-Hauls. (cont'd at the link -- comments there, too).