Advice Goddess Radio, Tonite, 6-7pm PT, 9-10 ET -- Carlin Flora on Friendfluence
Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in therapy and research.
Tonight's show is on why friendships matter more now than ever, the ways friends can make us better people, and how to have more satisfying friendships and ditch the dark ones.
My guest is Carlin Flora, the fantastic editor I worked with at Psychology Today, and her book is Friendfluence: The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are
She's one of the few non-scientists to appear on my show, but her book is research-driven and I found her to be very solid on science, and this should be a compelling show.
Listen at 6 pm Pacific and 9 pm Eastern at this link or download the podcast afterward:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2013/04/30/carlin-flora-friendfluence
And don't miss last week's show with psychologist Jeremy Dean on how to control your habits instead of letting them control you. Dean is founder of the popular website PsyBlog and is the author of Making Habits, Breaking Habits: Why We Do Things, Why We Don't, and How to Make Any Change Stick
We are convinced that we are the boss of us -- that we do the things we do because they make sense, because we've got goals, because we make smart choices. Often, that's far from the case. But, by understanding how habits are formed, why we develop them, and what our biases are, we can use habit-forming to our benefit and have some chance of stopping the habits holding us back.
Listen online or download the podcast:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2013/04/22/jeremy-dean-form-good-habits-ditch-bad-make-change-stick
Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sunday, 7-8pm Pacific, 10-11pm Eastern, with podcasts available afterward, at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon, or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.
The technical side on tonight:
You were understandable, but sounded like you were in a closet with an empty sink in front of you. You did start breaking up in the last 5-10 minutes you were breaking up a some that you were barely understandable.
Now as far as my imposition comment:
I made a comment that good friends will impose, a little, at another friends choke point such as a death, divorce, or similar thing. I got a feeling that you think it is absolutely bad.
I'm referring that several friends see the devastated friend at a low point and then come in and do things like cook food, clean their house, take them out for something as easy as a walk in the park. Basically don't allow them to completely wallow in grief.
Note that I hat the chat for long thoughts, so maybe I wasn't clear.
Jim P. at April 29, 2013 7:14 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/04/29/advice_goddess_111.html#comment-3693801">comment from Jim P.Thanks so much, Jim P. Depressing. Gregg's thinking about getting me a new headset. I really, really appreciate when you and Adam let me know about the sound.
And I'm not sure why you think I think that is bad. I think it's great. I do that for friends, and took care of my friend Cathy Seipp (as one of a group of her friends) when she had terminal lung cancer.
KateC always cleans my house a little when she comes over and I love her for that.
Amy Alkon
at April 29, 2013 7:22 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/04/29/advice_goddess_111.html#comment-3693802">comment from Amy AlkonPS I had nine pages of notes, so I don't always see everything in the chat room. (Hard to look at everything -- chat, Gregg on Skype, etc. -- in a timely manner. I do miss some things, though I don't mean to.)
Amy Alkon
at April 29, 2013 7:23 PM
Amy,
Like I said, I hate chat in a rushed environment like your show.
I think it was a mutual ADD moment for all of us. I know your attention is always divided during the show.
I was commenting on imposition, had a pause then asked "Is that bad?" and I think you were doing a reply to the "imposition" was "Absolutely".
A matter of talking past each other.
The content was great. The only way I won't put it in the top group is the tech issues. But those can really be overlooked.
Jim P. at April 29, 2013 7:53 PM
I bought one of the books Amy.
Can't wait to read.
Ppen at April 30, 2013 3:26 AM
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