More On Sperm Stealing To Force Men Into Child Support
It happens. How often? Too often if you're the guy who's now "Daddy!"
I posted this on my linkies post in response to a comment sneer about my earlier post on this, "I Hope You Stop Giving Out Horribly Sexist Advice!", with a reader of my column screeching at me for daring to tell men this:
Of course, the single worst form of birth control is trusting that a woman -- especially a woman longing for a baby -- is actually taking or using hers. A mitigating factor is whether she's shown herself to be ethical. Consider whether that describes your girlfriend. If not, you might want to make that a requirement for any partner of yours -- before you find yourself reading "The Very Hungry Caterpillar" aloud for the 300th time in a week, as it's the only way to keep your toddler from screaming like a goat being slaughtered.
I also link to a paper I heard presented at an ev psych conference that found that more than a third of women surveyed had risked getting pregnant without the consent of or even the discussion with their partner.
Shawna Cohen tells one of these stories where a pregnancy occurred at Mommyish:
Here's how it happened, according to Houston Press. Joe Pressil began dating his girlfriend, Anetria, in 2005. They broke up in 2007 and, three months later, she told him she was pregnant with his child. Pressil was confused, since the couple had used birth control, but a paternity test proved that he was indeed the father. So Pressil let Anetria and the boys stay at his home and he agreed to pay child support.
Fast forward to February of this year, when 36-year-old Pressil found a receipt - from a Houston sperm bank called Omni-Med Laboratories - for "cryopreservation of a sperm sample" (Pressil was listed as the patient although he had never been there). He called Omni-Med, which passed him along to its affiliated clinic Advanced Fertility. The clinic told Pressil that his "wife" had come into the clinic with his semen and they performed IVF with it, which is how Anetria got pregnant.
The big question, of course, is how exactly did Anetria obtain Pressil's sperm without him knowing about it? Simple. She apparently saved their used condoms. Gag. (Anetria denies these claims.) [tagbox tag="IVF"]
"I couldn't believe it could be done. I was very, very devastated. I couldn't believe that this fertility clinic could actually do this without my consent, or without my even being there," Pressil said, adding that artificial insemination is against his religious beliefs. "That's a violation of myself, to what I believe in, to my religion, and just to my manhood," Pressil said.
The answer: Make dating ethical women a priority.