"Not Tonight...Headache" Is Now "Sexual Violence" At The University Of Michigan
Had a challenging column to put out this week, so I'm a little behind on this story I saw tweeted by various people, but it truly is incredible. Note what the University of Michigan categorizes as "sexual violence" -- "discounting the partner's feelings regarding sex," "criticizing the partner sexually," and "withholding sex":
Sexual violence Examples of sexual violence include: discounting the partner's feelings regarding sex; criticizing the partner sexually; touching the partner sexually in inappropriate and uncomfortable ways; withholding sex and affection; always demanding sex; forcing partner to strip as a form of humiliation (maybe in front of children), to witness sexual acts, to participate in uncomfortable sex or sex after an episode of violence, to have sex with other people; and using objects and/or weapons to hurt during sex or threats to back up demands for sex.
So, at the University of Michigan, "Sorry, I'm too tired" is now a form of sexual violence.
As is, "You never wait for me to come anymore."
Well, as categorized by their "Abuse Hurts" page.
Romantic partners, if you're at the University of Michigan, you'd better be putting out. Or you're a sexually violent abuser.
It's just one more example of how college campuses are trying to rival "zero tolerance" lower-grade schools for idiotic edicts.
I am 98.7% certain that this standard will not be applied symmetrically. Just sayin'.
Cousin Dave at October 1, 2014 8:08 AM
Translation of Cousin Dave: Who's guilty for not giving it up? Him or her?
I also noticed in the quoted text that it might be sexual violence "to have sex with other people." Does that mean the least violent way to do it is alone, in your room?
It just occurred to me: Maybe that is what they mean!
Old RPM Daddy (OldRPMDaddy at GMail dot com) at October 1, 2014 8:19 AM
Feminist groups have been pushing these expansive definitions for abuse for years.
Why are these people upset now that it can be used against women as well
lujlp at October 1, 2014 9:02 AM
I never knew I was so sexually abused. I'll be over in the corner, curled up in a ball, weeping quietly.
On the other hand, if someone I deem unsuitable as a partner propositions me, am I allowed to refuse them? what if I know for a fact that they have an untreated (or untreatable) STI?
Oh, yeah: I am a dirty rat bastard, so this part doesn't bother me.
Does that mean the least violent way to do it is alone, in your room?
Well, that is a form of denial to your partner, so...
I R A Darth Aggie at October 1, 2014 9:41 AM
When I was young, I rode a motorcycle, and I slept with college girls, and everyone knew which one was dangerous to one’s future, and which was not. Nowadays, on balance, I would advise male college students who are sleeping with female college students to take up a less-dangerous activity - like riding a motorcycle. With this now being the Federally-mandated default direction, any male college student who goes within shouting distance of a female student is literally putting his future in her hands. Why would you?
The eventual recovery (when college-age women figure out the results of having the dreams of hard-core feminists imposed upon them) is going to be interesting. And fun. It so happens that I drive right through downtown Ann Arbor on my way to work. The layers of anti-rape posters festooning the blue-light kiosks must be up to inches thick now. In just a few more years, when college men are avoiding college women like the plague – what will the posters be about then, I wonder?
llater,
llamas
llamas at October 1, 2014 9:48 AM
Hey llamas, does your handle mean a multiplicity of domesticated South American camelids, or Spanish for "you call [yourself]", meaning "your name is"?
DaveG at October 1, 2014 10:31 AM
Here's a thought:
www.fleshlight.com
Steve Daniels at October 1, 2014 10:32 AM
From the article:
Domestic violence can be a single act or a pattern of behavior in relationships, which Michigan law defines as: currently or formerly married, currently or formerly dating, currently or formerly living together, or having a child in common. Domestic violence may be known by other terms, including intimate partner violence or relationship abuse. Many behaviors associated with domestic violence are crimes.
So conceivably it is now domestic violence on you should your ex boyfriend from 5 years ago have sex with his now wife
lujlp at October 1, 2014 11:53 AM
Is it domestic violence if I can't get it up?
"Your Honor, the prosecution will prove that the defendant assaulted his girlfriend with a limp dick. It was horrific."
Steve Daniels at October 1, 2014 12:38 PM
hey Cousin Dave, why the benefit of the doubt with your lowball percentage? I'm anticipating 99.9999% ...
UNTIL adjudication in real courts, where men are suing for due process violations, and provable female criminality...
and then the rules will be abruptly changed again.
Under many of these rules, and certainly the European style ones... my ex was certainly an abusive perp.
Honestly, I don't know how they snuck in the "withholding" one... I'd have to wonder the percentages of guys that will withhold that, vs. women.
If it all devolves down to he said/she said, what diff do all these rules make?
SwissArmyD at October 1, 2014 2:03 PM
What this issue needs is a good old fashioned George Carlin rant. Somebody needs to shame these people publicly.
Radwaste at October 1, 2014 2:53 PM
So, if I'm a bar and I reject a guy's advances, am I now guilty of sexual violence?
Not according to the standards in the article, but it looks like it's going that way.
Patrick at October 1, 2014 3:20 PM
What if I'm watching boring porn? Is the producer guilty of a sex crime?
Steve Daniels at October 1, 2014 10:24 PM
Only men commented on this one.
Crid at October 2, 2014 12:10 AM
Notice how very little of that is actually violent or threatens violence. Things like discounting and
criticizing are rather non-violent.
As for uncomfortable sex... well let's just say that could completely rule out sex after a baby. For months to years depending on the birth. Might not impact many students, but post-docs and grad students (as well as professors) might have some problems.
Anon at October 2, 2014 3:56 AM
@DaveG - camelids.
@SwissArmyD - the difference these rules make is that they define that these situations are now all 'she said - she said' situations. What he said, didn't say, did, failed to do, thought, didn't think - none of that matters anymore except insofar as it may support the cause of the 'victim'.
@Patrick - why, yes, Just last night on NPR, we were treated to the joy of knowing that these rules are going to be interpreted by DOJ in a strictly gender-neutral way.
All these years, my ex-wife has been committing these heinous crimes against me - and she a lawyer! She should know better.
llater,
llamas
llamas at October 2, 2014 6:12 AM
"Yes, yes, you both filled out form Intercoital Registration 69M/F, but you forgot to remind her to check the box marked 'Check This Box if You Want to Contribute $1 to the Campaign to Destroy White Privilege' with a BLACK (not blue) pen. The Court finds her guilty of Suspected Avoidance and sentences her to 3 days in Re-Education Class, suspended.
You, young sir, are obviously a racist, rapist predator, and the Court is sorely disappointed to only hand down the maximum sentence of three years, plus a fine of $50,000. Bailiff, take this criminal away to the nearest commercially-run jail so we can enjoy the under-the-table kickbacks, which will go a long way to paying off my boat loan. Next case."
Gog_Magog_Carpet_Reclaimers at October 2, 2014 9:17 AM
DaveG:
Hey llamas, does your handle mean a multiplicity of domesticated South American camelids or ...
It's actually a group account. On different nights, different members of the herd sneak out and post from an old windows machine they have hidden in the back of the machinery barn. It's really very impressive what a determined llama can do with its tongue.
kenmce at October 2, 2014 4:04 PM
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