Thank You.

Aw...thanks.

More posts tomorrow morning.

One hope you will provide him with the traditional reward for a knights service to a damsel

Oh, that's wonderful!

I aspire to treat my wife as well as your boyfriend treats you. Thanks for the story.

Absolutely excellent!

This is the sort of thing a good man does. My husband has come to my rescue any number of times.

Greg is definitely a keeper.

One hope you will provide him with the traditional reward for a knights service to a damsel

"I did all this work, and all I got was a lousy scarf?"

Wut?

But in truth, oh the Hugh Manatee of the Patriarchy.

"I aspire to treat my wife as well as your boyfriend treats you."

That's so nice, Brad R. I write about this -- including research how acting lovingly actually leads to feeling more loving. It also creates gratitude in your partner -- assuming you've chosen reasonably well.

Gregg was once in the hospital -- though it turned out nothing was wrong with him. He had to stay overnight, and I slept on his cold hospital room floor so he wouldn't be there alone and he'd have somebody to advocate for him. (Nurses get that I respect and appreciate them, and whomever I'm with in a hospital seems to get treated a little better because of it.) It was the day before "I SEE RUDE PEOPLE" was due, and Gregg yelled at me to go home. I refused. I think, if he wasn't sure I loved him before then, he knew it then.

Amy, I'm sure you have covered this before, but I'm curious. Why don't you and Greg get married? You and he have been together longer than some marriages I have known. You clearly love and are good for one another.

Is it a tax issue? Fear on someone's part of "commitment"? The old "I don't need a piece of paper from the government" excuse?

I apologize in advance if I have overstepped the boundaries of polite inquiry, but I would truly like to see a blog post (or even a link to an old post) about this.

art, Greg may like his house and wants to keep it.

(Sorry Amy, could not help myself.)

There are things men are good at, like what Greg did or like when I swap out the sump pump. And there are things we are not good at, like reading minds or dressing formally. The things we are good at tend to be taken for granted, and the things we are not good at are a big negative. I think it would help relationships a lot if women in particular would accept that their man is not a swiss army knife but has things he can and cannot do well. Men do not expect their wives to kill spiders or do plumbing. Why is it a catastrophe when husbands can't match a tie properly? This seems very asymmetric.

I don't feel any need to get married.

If it would help one of us on some bureaucratic level, I'd do it.

And no need to apologize. I don't mind your asking. I generally enjoy questions of all kinds (assuming you aren't yelling, "Can I eat your pussy?!" out of a truck) because they make me think.

Women who accept that men and women are different don't snarl when a man isn't like a woman (re: tie matching catastrophe). We accept the opportunity to play fashion coordinator with our giant man doll.

Amy, what OS are you running? My 2009 has turned into a dog.

If all dogs go to heaven, mine is about to meet its maker.

Hell hath no fury like an S.O. with a bad computer.

10.9.5, Gog.

Gregg on phone: "Look, honey, just stick to advice."

Gregg suggests "check your RAM. Got enough RAM? Is it good RAM? Put an SSD in." He got one on Amazon. He says. "don't buy off-brand SSDs." Here's a link to the one he got: http://amzn.to/2mnitsA

If you have a late 2009 iMac like I did -- Model identifier 10,1 (says Gregg) -- Gregg says to be sure to get the late 2009 heat sensor to replace the hard-drive sensor that's in there now.

RAM can be bought at Fry's if you're around here.

You also need two suction cups to get your screen off if it's late 2009 iMac.

Gregg says he'll do a post in the next few days for me to put up in case somebody else wants to do this -- telling you the stuff you need. He also has a link to some video to help.

He says, "Anybody can do it. It's not that difficult. You just have to be careful."

I'd add: "And not prone to tears."

Gog, all MacOS versions after 10.6.8 are significantly slower. If you choose to stop with 10.6.8, system protection is completely up to you according to Apple.
It's the same old feature creep. The company sees a faster processor, and then loads more crap in the OS.

They should be embarrassed that my 17-year-old G4 is faster at many functions than my MacBook Pro, but that old thing won't post iPhoto to Facebook or do notifications, or synchronize my phone or a bunch of other things I really don't need.

Programmers don't get paid to maintain existing systems, no matter how good they are.

Do Thinkpads Dream of Selectric Sheep?