"Why Must Some Feminists Be So Patronizing?"
That's a quote from a guy friend of mine -- a sweetheart of a guy who's one of those people who, daily, tries to make the world a better place by busting myths about achievement and helping people who are struggling.
He said it in response to this tweet he showed me:
Dear men: Stop throwing hissy-fits when women call you out for problematic behavior. LEARN TO LISTEN.
— Anna Cail Geeks (@AnnaGeeks) March 7, 2017
Her little 140-character lecture shows she knows little about men or human psychology.
Men listen to what you want -- and it means something to them to do it -- when you show them they are loved and appreciated.
You can't expect any person to be perfect. But if you find a good guy and are sweet to him -- and believe in him -- he'll be wonderful to you (and maybe even heroic), and try to remember to do stuff that matters to you.
The key here: Somebody has to want to do what you want from them.
It also helps to be reasonable about what you want -- like by understanding biological sex differences and the differing male and female psychologies that come out of them, and by not expecting a man to basically be a woman.
P.S. Men who throw "hissy fits" are flaming homosexuals or drag queens -- like the one I saw on the West Side Highway back when I lived in New York, going off about her stilettos somebody made off with.
It seems there was a follow-up tweet:
Just before I sent this tweet I paused and realized the people it's directed at will never realize it's for them. They aren't listening. https://t.co/RpbOH8imMI
— Anna Cail Geeks (@AnnaGeeks) March 7, 2017
Scoldy is such a successful strategy.
UPDATE: Irate feminist response to this post.







Yes, but she feels good. And isn't that what this is all about. Letting Ms Geeks feel good about herself without actually doing anything.
Ben at March 8, 2017 8:35 AM
That's funny Amy. I was trying to think of what a "hissy fit" is from a guy's POV and was drawing a blank.
(Figured maybe it was her BF telling her to stop bitching about something. And of course her bitching topic wasn't the topic she was bitching about.)
Bob in Texas at March 8, 2017 10:34 AM
The best way to see a guy throw a hissy fit? If you have long, luscious hair, get a pixie haircut. See your BF/SO/Husband weep.
Sixclaws at March 8, 2017 10:39 AM
The smug, self-righteous aura of entitlement is breathtaking. The demonstration of privilege is deliciously ironic.
What an ignorant slunt -- a perfect representative for International Miserable Bitch (Feminist) Day.
Jay R at March 8, 2017 10:40 AM
There is a double standard. It is quite ok if the woman can't do electrical, plumbing, painting, yard work, taxes, bills, legal, pick up heavy stuff, read a map. But they guy has to do all that stuff and change a diaper and cook a fancy meal too. It is easy peasy to have unrealistic expectations that no one can meet.
This even applies to looks. In an interesting study, the investigators had college students rate photos for attractiveness. Men rated on a bell curve, with a few very pretty, a few very ugly, and most girls rated average. And that makes sense. But the girls rated the guys 80% below average. In other words, they had unrealistic ideas of what guys should be. I would bet they do this for incomes also. A recipe for dissatisfaction in life.
cc at March 8, 2017 11:14 AM
I'm afraid this is why generalized comments almost always backfire. Better to name and shame.
Bill Peschel at March 8, 2017 12:16 PM
The other issue is "she's decided it's Problematic" and "it is actually a problem" are different.
(I say her tweet is problematic, and she's not going to listen to me.
Plainly I'm right because I'm using literally the same argument, which is sheer assertion.
"Calling people out" is a political action, especially these days. It does not grant automatic moral superiority.
People seem to not realize that.)
(I still say people should drive to work in pirates.)
Sigivald at March 8, 2017 12:18 PM
Because, "mansplaining".
First ran into this piece of cant a few years ago. Seems to be some sort of "I win" magic reset button for radical fems.
Charles Eaton at March 8, 2017 12:23 PM
Why?
It's the only way they get to engage in mothering behavior
lujlp at March 8, 2017 12:38 PM
Of course, "mansplaining" has been defined as one of two things: 1. A man patronizingly telling a woman he knows better than she does just because he's a man; or 2.Stating an empirically verifiable fact some woman doesn't like.
In this case my guess is that she is just complaining because when she calls out some man for what she sees as problematic behavior, the man doesn't necessarily agree that it is.
Alex Bensky at March 8, 2017 12:53 PM
"Call you out for problematic behavior"? That sounds suspiciously like "giving unsolicited advice."
Unless the woman is their supervisor/employer or mother, she is not obligated to "call out" anyone for their supposedly problematic behavior.
She has two options when it comes to someone else's problematic behavior (barring the two exceptions I mentioned above). 1) She can either learn to live with it, or 2) she may disassociate herself from that person whose behavior is so problematic.
But, no, she does not get to go around fixing people. Distressing as that must be for someone like her.
Patrick at March 8, 2017 1:11 PM
By the way, mansplaining is when a woman asks a man to explain something to her, then is embarrassed by needing him to do so.
Patrick at March 8, 2017 1:14 PM
I always assume this sort of tweet is virtue signaling at its most obvious. It's sad really. She probably got a few virtual high fives from her fellow SJW's out of the tweet and that's about it.
rjschwarz at March 8, 2017 1:21 PM
You want to go to men and "call them out"?
Let's be clear. When men would call each other out, they called each other out into the street to KILL EACH OTHER. They would have a sword fight or a gunfight. The man doing the calling out didn't get to scold the called out without repercussion.
Stop appropriating my gender's language.
Phelps at March 8, 2017 2:41 PM
MATRONizing?
Mike Anderson at March 8, 2017 3:31 PM
That broad needs a man.
Gog_Magog_Carpet_Reclaimers at March 8, 2017 4:26 PM
Dear women: stop defining normal male behavior as "problematic" and throwing hissy fits when men don't fall down and worship at the altar of modern PC feminism.
Conan the Grammarian at March 8, 2017 6:05 PM
With all due deference, women's core competence isn't knowing how stuff works.
In any realm involving the tiniest bit of systemic reasoning, or mechanical intuition, women are scarcely any better than infants.
Harsh, I know. But gather 1,000 women and ask them how the internal combustion engine works. I'll lay even odds you won't get a dozen coherent, correct, answers.
All the women I've ever known would say the engines have three parts: key, gas pedal, and credit card. Although having a male significant other makes the latter optional.
Jeff Guinn at March 8, 2017 8:35 PM
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