Is he spineless? Or just a cheapskate? I can respect the latter (resembling that remark), but not the former. If it's the former, grow the complete pair and be done. And if it is the latter, then the money would not be well-spent stuck in a prison with a woman you want out of your life.

Kind of a bummer he won't get to go to Costa Rica...but yes, he should absolutely let her know it's over.

She's better off without him. Maybe she'll meet someone nicer in Costa Rica!

(PS - LW, if you go to Costa Rica and then break up with her, you're worse than a jerk. You're a horse's ass.)

Fuck all that! It's not as though going to Costa Rica is a small thing. I've always wanted to go there. You've paid for your trip. Go to Costa Rica while getting some last shot pussy at the same time. You've paid for the trip. Take the damn trip.

Amy did hit on something important, though. That is that you should make sure you get a lot of photos of you in Costa Rica without this young lady in the frame. That way, you can brag about your travels to Costa Rica to the next girl you're banging without having to bring up the uncomfortable subject of who your traveling companion was.

Is she so much of a nagging pain in the ass that she would ruin the trip for you? That might change my advice. However, if you're just worried that you'd be stringing her along, don't be a pussy and go to Costa Rica. Seriously, go to Costa Rica and knock the bottom out that a few more times. Why the fuck not? How bad could it be? She'll be there to break up with when the two of you get home. Don't listen to these people.

Now don't hold back, whistleDick, tell us how you really feel.:)

"Is she so much of a nagging pain in the ass that she would ruin the trip for you?" Waylll...if he's renting the house for a month? With her friends? I don't think she'll have to do a whole hell of a lot.

The concentrated stink-eye will probably have him sleeping on the beach.

I don't know your financial situation, but assuming this is not a once in a lifetime chance and you could afford to go some other time, I think you should break up with her and suggest she bring a friend in your stead. It would be expensive but would soften the blow and would be a very kind thing to do.

Plane tickets are non transferable but usually you can change the date or destination for a couple hundred bucks. Go somewhere else or put off the trip, or if you can afford it go anyways but find other lodging.

Dump her quick so she can find a friend to go with it might not be easy ti find someone who can take a month off

There will be many chances to go to Costa Rica. Chances to prove what kind of person you are are rare. This is one of them.

I don't know your financial situation, but assuming this is not a once in a lifetime chance and you could afford to go some other time, I think you should break up with her and suggest she bring a friend in your stead. It would be expensive but would soften the blow and would be a very kind thing to do.

Plane tickets are non transferable but usually you can change the date or destination for a couple hundred bucks. Go somewhere else or put off the trip, or if you can afford it go anyways but find other lodging.

Dump her quick so she can find a friend to go with it might not be easy ti find someone who can take a month off

There will be many chances to go to Costa Rica. Chances to prove what kind of person you are are rare. This is one of them.

Sorry for the double post

whistleDick, ah, just the kind of jerk that girls in their early 20's always seem to go for. Someone to emotionally abuse them. What a jerk. That's what your hand is for, not another living breathing human being.

Unless he was being sarcastic, which totally does not come through.

I'm pretty sure the Whistle was yanking a few chains here. He's done it before.

As for the LW, I'll echo everybody else: Break up with her now and eat whatever the monetary losses work out to be. It's the decent thing to do.

I wish there was a reason given for the desire to break up. My spidey-sense is telling me he's one of those people who feel the need to break up just before the holidays.

Costa Rica´s way overrated. Tourists get robbed all the time,
there´s no culture, beaches are nice but its boring. Plus if you really want to go its cheap from the US.

Prostitution´s legal there so if you want to be a double horse´s ass just go to save your money and then hook up for cheap. GF will get the message. Have a gung-ho screaming hung over breakup after your walk of shame. Maybe be prepared to fly home separately.

If I had my heart broken, a trip to an exotic location with my friends would be exactly what I needed. Let her go as a single girl. If you go, you will resent her presence the entire time. She will resent you later.

Tell her it's over, and once she's had a few days to process that, she may surprise you by offering to find another friend and getting you a refund. I'm guessing that one sliver of a rental house isn't that much money anyway, and you can cancel your plane ticket and apply it (minus transaction fees) to another flight in the future.

Where do you guys work that you can take a MONTH off in winter? Damn.

LW mentions that they're renting the house with "her friends." Sounds like he'd be pretty miserable if he went. Break up now, try to get your airfare refunded, and eat the cost of the rental. I doubt she can find someone else to go to replace him, since it sounds like they're staying for a whole month, and most people can's take off for a month with such short notice. Maybe they're college students on winter break?

As many have already said -- be a decent person and let her go to Cost Rica (which is AWESOME, you should definitely go in the future) and get over you.

I went to Jamaica right after my boyfriend dumped me, and sipping cocktails on a beautiful beach right after going sailing, waterskiing and white water rafting is the BEST way to get over someone, I must say.

"Costa Rica´s way overrated. Tourists get robbed all the time, there´s no culture"

I pretty much agree. It's the blandest Latin American country to go to (kinda like vacationing in Canada...).

Costa Rica is a place to go to if you like to surf-that's about it.

Pretty much everyone is descendant from the Spanish (very few race mixing got down) so in terms of culture-I agree-not that interesting.

If you skip Costa Rica you'll be ok trust me.

If you skip Costa Rica you'll be ok trust me.

Yeah, depends on what you're going for. I went for surfing and wildlife/plantlife (which it is FANTASTIC for). Also good for a lounging-on-the-beach vacation. Despite how touristy it is, I found myself on plenty of totally empty beaches in January, which I loved.

So, yeah, Costa Rica is more of a beachy/nature/mental health vacation rather than a place to party, or experience an interesting culture or cuisine.

I think Amy's answer focused on the right thing. This guy needs to have the maturity to break up in the way that hurts this girl the least. That's called character, which isn't necessarily cheap.

FWIW, I also think it's overrated. My family lived near there in the 90s, and I'm really surprised that it's become such a hot spot.

For purposes of this post, I'm assuming it's the GF's kind of place, where she can start healing a broken heart.

When to break up depends mostly on why LW wants to break up with her.

Forget being a nice guy. Back out now for your own safety.

You have no idea what hell a woman's friends would put you through in a foreign country if it slips out you're dumping her. And believe me - you'll be trying so hard not to let on, you'll blurt it out. If you still must go, at least report back, for our entertainment.

Him, his GF, and her freinds, meaning at least 2 possibly more.

UNless the guy was stupid enough to pay for the rental entirely and everyone's airfare he ant be out that much

Insufficient Poison, my guess is that they are college students. Winter break is about one month.

Were I a bit more cynical I'd guess the guy is dumping her cause she wont put out.

He thought a vaca in the islands would get him there and then she invites her freinds as a cock block

You cynical luj? Never...

I tend to agree with whistle (maybe not quite so bluntly) - go enjoy the holiday you've booked. At least you'll have a fun memory together, even if you never want to see each other again. I doubt she'll be more or less upset afterwards or before.

Do what women do. Have your fun and lie.