NEVER confess your feelings to a woman! Instead, make her FIGURE IT OUT. Those spill-your-guts confessions put a burden of expectation on her, and she'll respond just like it's last night's dinner you're spilling on her.

You and Gregg are already established though and the lw isnt

The Goddess writes: "and because when you kissed her, you apparently didn't spit afterward, wipe your hand across your mouth, and say "Eeeuw!""

I did that once. I didn't realize it, but he smoked generic cigarettes and was also drinking beer...neither of which I have any use for.

It occurs to me that dating women must be like a walking a tightrope. Don't tell her how you feel too soon. But wait too long and watch her stewing in resentment that you don't say, "I love you" often enough.

Yeah, but it works both ways Patrick. Be TOO clingy and a guy flips, too distant and he thinks you're not interested or too cold.

People are complicated

I'm confused. She's going out with him for the third time. Clearly than, she likes him and he likes her. Why not say so? It reminds me of the scene in Annie Hall where Woody Allen says to Diane Keaton (I'm paraphrasing) "OK, let's just kiss now and get it over with so we can move ahead". Why not just say what you feel and then move ahead?

Ya know... there's a hidden message among all of Bitten tongue's words. It's fear.
So now all he needs to figure out is what the hell he is afraid of? Rejection? Being too forward ? Not forward enough.

See this is exactly what's wrong with men, their balls have all but disappeared and ( dare I say it) ... Women love a man with a heart AND a spine.

Until she gives you a sign that she isn't, assume she is mad about you.

"Be TOO clingy and a guy flips, too distant and he thinks you're not interested or too cold."

Yup NicoleK you've hit it right on the head. I fall into the latter category and when a guy tells me he doesn't want a girlfriend I just go "ok."

I don't act emotionally attached because I'm not. It's the rare guy that I really super duper like anyways. But multiple times I've had guys that don't want a girlfriend bitch to me that "they hardly ever hear from me, why don't I call/text/hang out more".

My guy in LA told me he doesn't want a girlfriend yet sometimes he wants me to talk to him on the phone for at least an hour while he falls asleep, texts me all the time, wants to drive to where I live etc. (No I don't do it)

My ruling conclusion is despite what many guys say I think they want a clingy/emotionally attached girl to boost their ego.

"NEVER confess your feelings to a woman!"

No, foster resentment and hostility by keeping your feelings to yourself and her guessing.

Worst. Advice. Ever.

Patrick, if you were grossed out by his drinking beer and smoking to that degree, why were you interested in him in the first place?

So saying, on the third date, something like "I really like spending time with you. I think we really might have something going here" is bad? At what point do you tell her that you like her? The fifth date? The tenth? These psychological games people have to play in the dating world must be exhausting. I'm glad I'm out of it.

Is he really calling her every night? If so, he should stop doing that immediately. Call her when you have something fun to do for which you would enjoy her company.

I recently began taking a new woman out. She's hilarious, fun, and I was really enjoying spending time with her. However, she started in with the texting and calling all the time. I was very frank and backed her off of that shit in a hurry. Now, I feel like I'm struggling to keep her at arms length and am constantly on guard for any signs that she is getting clingy.

Rather than enjoying the process of continuing to get to know her further, I find myself preoccupied with making sure that I'm not giving mixed signals. I don't want to be the guy that unfairly strings someone along.

All the while, I've been enjoying fucking her and have been very much enjoying her giant tits. Therefore, I'll do my best to keep her on the roster while warding off any notion of a long term thing.

If you'd like to be in the same position as this woman I'm speaking of, keep calling her all the time. Otherwise, let her get to know you comfortably.

There are two things that you can glean from my post. That is, that you should stop calling her incessantly, and that I'm an asshole.

Yeah, if a guy has taken me out three times, calls me every day, and kissed me at least once, I would NEVER guess that maybe he likes me (insert eyeroll.) Sorry, but some formal declaration of "liking" would sound to me like something a 5th grader would say.