I like listening to music as background during sex, but am not too fussed about it one way or the other.

But playing a random playlist did once lead to an amusing moment . . . with my ex, who is about 20 years younger than me. So at the time he was 21 and I was 41. It was the first time we actually did the deed, and in the afterglow-y moment when we looked at each other with the "wow, that was awesome" look, whatever song was playing ended and nice and loud began . . . "Mrs. Robinson." Darn iPod and its hilarious sense of humor!

I gotta agree with LW, prefer to be fully engaged in him instead of what's playing. But you gotta laugh at the funny timing. "Don't tell me you love me, don't tell me you love me, 'cause I don't want to know..." or this: "Stop right there
I gotta know right now
Before we go any further

Do you love me
Will you love me forever
Do you need me
Will you never leave me
Will you make me so happy
For the rest of my life....

I like to play anything, just so it's loud enough that her kids can't hear us.

If you're so averse to vocalizing what it is that you want that you can't even bring yourself to say, "Let's turn off the music", you're in for a lifetime of tremendously terrible sex.

Oh, and that terrible sex you'll be having? Don't blame it on the guy.

Amy: "The guy will probably nod offhandedly, but in his brain, a tiny stenographer from the sex department will be feverishly taking notes."

Um... the sultry blonde stenographer straight from a Phillip Marlowe novel who lives in my head just waved and said, "Tell Amy,'Hi!'"

So you two know each other? How is that even possible?

I'm with Jefe, music during sex was pretty much always about covering up either our noise or other peoples noise.

Whistle has a pretty good point. I'm not sure how big a problem the music is supposed to be, but I wouldn't bet it's that big a deal to the guy either way. Just let him know, so he won't put the LW's aversion down to "unquantifiable female turn-offs that may or may not have anything to do with me."

And as far as distractions go, are we talking, "Celine Dion gives me hives," or "Pinch it off, Pistol Pete, Jimmy Page's solo's starting?"

"Pop Goes the Weasel," I suppose, would be right out in any case.

I'm of mixed emotions on this. "When the Levee Breaks" has an excellent rhythym to it, so I don't mind that (or pretty much any other blues or rock music) to get down to. Pop music, not so much. Although it could make for a funny moment if a girl is going down on a guy and Hall & Oates' "Maneater" comes on!

Just sayin'....

Sayeth the Fabulous Flynne: "When the Levee Breaks" has an excellent rhythym to it, so I don't mind that (or pretty much any other blues or rock music) to get down to. Pop music, not so much.

I think you'd have to mind the tempo, too. At least "Levee" doesn't move along too fast. Some of them beats could plum tucker a guy out!

If there's been some previous smooching, the music's already on. Move to the bedroom? Could you turn the music off? But it's Norah Jones/Earth, Wind and Fire. I can't really concentrate on what's happening if there's music playing. I really love this. So do I, but not when we're getting down. I'll turn it down. Could you turn it off please? Oh, come on.

Ruins the mood.

Am I the only one who doesn't like to have music playing during sex?

I'm sure there are plenty of people who don't like that.

If the music's good, I'll be listening to it rather than paying attention to him or my own arousal. If the music's bad, I don't want to hear it at all.

When I'm with a woman and she puts on music and I don't like it, then I'm with you: I don't want to hear it. But where I differ from you is that, if she puts on music that I like, it's hardly going to keep me from paying attention to her.

I don't always put on a music when I have a woman over but, when I do, I have one album that women never fail to like. It's quite erotic.

I am like LW and do not want the TV or music to be on while we're having sex.
I find it very distracting for the reasons she states.
But a funny thing happened years ago. I lost my virginity as a teen back in the 70s. WHILE we were in the process, Rod Stewart's "Tonight's The Night" played and I started to giggle. Messed with my bf's head because he was all nervous and thought I was laughing at him. oops.

If there is music playing I don't notice.

Maybe we can get a contest going. Worst song possible that pertains to sex. My vote is Celine Dion cover of AC/DC's "You Shook Me All Night Long". Follow the link, it's worth it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vgVj3P7cwI

Hark! Shania Twain has an even worse cover of this song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zHtuGMHWAf0

If anyone played this song during sex I think both/all/only participant(s) would fall asleep, immediately.

Worst cover ever: Katy Perry "singing" "Don't Stop Me Now" live; can be found on YouTube.

You'll want to bleach your brain after hearing that.

How can that be worse than any Michael Bolt-on whine?

I can think of a few songs that would be sure mood-killers:

* "They're Coming To Take Me Away"
* "D.O.A."
* "Love Stinks"
* "Disco Duck"
* "Anarchy in the U.K."

I think another point is not whether music is good/bad during sex. Rather all the sex the music can lead to. Music relaxes people. Gets them in a good mood. Gets the juices flowing. Music is a great aphrodisiac. I don't know much but this I know.

Some great music, a little wine, flirty dancing... boom... next thing you know you're mopping the living floor with each other. Music really doesn't matter at that point. It could be middle eastern chanting and I wouldn't care.