Grow a Fu Manchu, or some other kind of douchey beard

https://www.google.com/search?q=douchey+beard&es_sm=93&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=LO_qU_2uKZClyQSp64KgCA&ved=0CB4QsAQ&biw=1093&bih=514

just to get back at her.
Or like Amy said have a rational conversation.

But hold on to the douchey beard thing if she goes nuts on you during the rational conversation

Loojy,that wasn't nice, what if she doesn't "go[es] nuts"?

Look it's her hair. If she likes it, LW should deal, but, as Amy says, he could make it known that while she is beautiful no matter what, his preference is longer hair. It should still be her decision whether she wants to grow it out or not. Telling her kindly about how he feels is the way to go. Let's just assume she won't go nuts, eh?

I assume everyone will go nuts because most people do

Well, yeah, there is that, I guess...

You know, she might decide, all by herself, to grow it out again. Then he would never have to say anything. I think he should wait until she talks about cutting it again.

"You know, she might decide, all by herself, to grow it out again."

There are three ways to hear a bird singing.

1. Beat the bird with a stick to cry.
2. Bribe the bird with food to sing.
3. Wait patiently until the bird to sing.

When do you think you will hear the most beautiful song from the bird?

3. Wait patiently until the bird to sing.

When do you think you will hear the most beautiful song from the bird?

IF it decides to sing, it may decide to not and just crap on your car.

When do you think you will hear the most beautiful song from the bird?

I dunno, am I a sadist?

When do you think you will hear the most beautiful song from the bird?

I dunno, am I a sadist?

"A woman marries a man, hoping he'll change, but he won't. A man marries a woman, hoping she'll never change, but she does."

I told mine I prefer her hair long so I can grab it properly. She totally understands. I mean, of course I still can, but it just works better with long hair.

Back in the day, there was a woman I worked with who had thick, wavy, dark hair; not real long, maybe shoulder length. One day she came in with one of those perm cuts that all the women were getting back then (mid-80's)--short, tight curls that looked like they belonged on a poodle. As soon as I saw her I blurted out "Oh no, another great head of hair ruined!".

Apparently my opinion carried some weight with her, because before long she grew her hair back out the way it was. Later we started dating and wound up living together for a couple of years.

We had this discussion. She gets a pixy cut I'm getting mine shaved, works much better with the convertible as both hats and sun screened hair sucks. Hate pixy cute always have, she hates me with a shaved head. In a long term relationship randomly getting pixy cut is right up there with packing on 50 lbs (for either). It's the distinct sign of 0 fucks to give about the relationship. If she's always had one then no it's just happens to be her style.

Two questions: Have you ever said anything in the past about liking her long hair? How old is she? She could be trying something new. We all do it in various ways. Most of us go back to the old way just a human foible.

Should you bring it up? Well that depends on how you do it. Nothing wrong with letting her know you have a preference, as long as you are equally receptive. Telling her she looks like Chewubaka got fucked by a lawn mower probably not wise.

As vlad said, hair styles are one of those things that you experiment with when you're young. And sometimes you get something that you thought was a good idea at the time, but two weeks later you realize it was terrible and you're tired of it. Fortunately, almost anything you do with hair is fixable if you wait long enough.

Hair is one of those things to be negotiated. For a while my wife had a rather bright color in her hair. I liked it and told her so. But she let it go because she was getting snarky comments at work. I get that. She does not generally care for facial hair, but the one time I grew a beard, she tolerated it (she was kind of curious anyway). I've since shaved it off and have no desire to grow one again.

The real kicker is making drastic permanant changes without consulting the other partner. A rather curvy gal of my former acquaintance decided that she wanted a breast reduction from her DD cup size. At the time, I thought, "OK, I get it. Those are heavy and she wants to tighten things up and have a larger selection of clothing available." Only... she went all the way down to an A-cup, without telling her husband that that's what she was going to do. Now she's pear shaped and her husband hates her, but he won't leave her because he can't afford the hit to his retirement account.

"Now she's pear shaped and her husband hates her but he won't leave her because he can't afford the hit to his retirement account."

Frankly, though I would talk to my spouse before surgically modifying my body and consider his view before proceeding, your friend sounds like a prize a-hole. He HATES her now? HATES her? Because she has small breasts? Really? And he wants to leave her because of it -- but he won't solely because he wants to keep his retirement account intact?

They should divorce so she doesn't have to live with someone who hates her, and he can find another woman who likes her DDs enough to keep them.

Pixie darling
My dearest Pixie
I must confess
You're just not sixie

He HATES her now? HATES her? Because she has small breasts? Really? And he wants to leave her because of it -- but he won't solely because he wants to keep his retirement account intact?

I can see that. At that point sex was probably infrequent, and now its probably more infrequent and on top of that he isnt attracted to her. But its cheaper to cheat than to get a divorce.

He HATES her now? HATES her?

We're getting that second hand, so I wouldn't assume "hates" is accurate. It could be more like that he feels little or nothing for her one way or the other, and what he really hates is the high cost of leaving. I've been there; still am.

Because she has small breasts?

It's not just the breast size. If the rest of her figure was in proportion to the double-D's, and only the breasts were reduced, the result would be something that only Sir Mix-a-Lot could love.

"Frankly, though I would talk to my spouse before surgically modifying my body and consider his view before proceeding, your friend sounds like a prize a-hole. He HATES her now? "

Yes, he hates her, because she lied to him (and everyone else) about what she was going to do. He hates her because, after the surgery, she said to herself, "Wow, I just lost 25 pounds; I can eat more!" (What Rex said, but more of it...) He hates her because she sent a clear signal to him that she no longer gives a fuck about their relationship.

Consider if you married a nice guy with a good career. One day he came to you and said, "I'm going to change jobs. My new job might make a bit less money." You'd probably be OK with that; maybe you'd rearrange your budget a bit. Then on new-job day he comes home and says, "I changed careers! I'm now a professional beer-pong player!"

I dunno about this one. While I agree with Amy that one should try to consider your partner and try to be attractive for them, I also agree that some things, like hair, aren’t really all that serious. If LW feels that strongly about it, the best approach is as Amy suggested. However, I think he should also prepare for her to say no. He doesn’t have to pretend he loves it, but this shouldn’t be a hill to die on.

I’m speaking as someone who has long wavy, thick very unmanageable hair. It’s always been problematic. I am often very tempted to get a pixie cut myself. I have the bone structure for it and living in a humid climate, I’m sure it would make managing it much easier. Battling the frizz and protecting it from sun damage is a daily occurrence. I cannot tell you the amount of money and time spent on cutting, styling, product and the time spent cleaning shedding hair off the floor, my pillow, my clothes, etc…
Because I work in theatre, I’m often wigged so pin curling to fit under the wig cap it is time consuming and it’s often such a mess afterwards that I end up wearing a hat or ponytail anyway. I also often have to color it for gigs. All that has caused even more damage. The only thing that’s stopped me is that I’d have to get all new headshots which are also very expensive. And, it would make me look younger than I want to look. (Ironic coming from an actress, I know). If I were to cut it, and my husband found me “less attractive” to the point of divorce, then I’m pretty sure that the marriage was doomed to begin with.

If she’s still attractive with the short hair then I say, let it go. Frankly, I’ve never understood why men are so hell bent on women having long hair to begin with. Is it supposed to be a sign of fertility and youth or something? Honestly, I think some women look younger and more attractive with short hair. Frankly, until men have had to save their locks from the grabby hands of a baby, rescue it from getting caught in stuff, cut out sticky substances from their strands, spend countless hours and dollars washing and conditioning and drying and styling and also spend time cleaning the mess from the shedding or clogged drains, they really shouldn't make those demands on their partners.

Sabrina, long hair might be an indicator of of good nutrition - there could be an evolutionary advantage to being attracted to long hair, as with hourglass figures.