Violence Against Men
A British taxi driver was robbed of everything -- his family life, his social life, his credibility, his livelihood, his money, and the well-being of his children. The perp, a 17-year-old girl who falsely accused him off rape, got off with a two-month wrist-slap: two months in jail. And they won't even print her name in the paper. Joe Sinclair writes in the Yorkshire Evening Post:
Taxi driver Aftab Ahmed, 44, of Allerton, Bradford, was accused of rape in January last year after driving the girl home.The 17-year-old had been out drinking in Bradford city centre with her sister and friends before they put her in his taxi.
The girl, from Shipley, West Yorkshire, who cannot be identified for legal reasons, pleaded guilty to perverting the course of justice when her case came to trial last month.
Speaking after she was sentenced to a four-month detention and training order at Bradford Magistrates' Court, Mr Ahmed said the girl had "destroyed" his life.
The teenager was told she would serve two months in custody, but the married father of 11-year-old twin daughters said: "Today is the worst day of my life, I can't imagine that the person who destroyed a whole family got only two months. ... She should be named and shamed."
She absolutely should. And I believe those who can be proven to have falsely accused someone else of rape should be made to serve the time the falsely accused would've, and pay restitution as well.
That said, how, really, do you ever give this guy back what he lost and repay him for the pain he and wife and his kids must have gone through? And, all because he picked up the wrong drunk brat and tried to get her home safely.
Here's a ruined life a little closer to home: a doctor who lost everything after being accused of rape, and under the most unbelievable circumstances, in an excerpt from a Pulitzer-winning piece by the WSJ's Dorothy Rabinowitz:
They were, indeed, remarkable charges. If the accusation were to be believed, the defense attorney pointed out, Dr. Griffin had decided in the midst of his examination, to place his tongue in a vagina swimming in fecal matter thanks to the condition in which the patient arrived for her colonoscopy. And he had chosen to do this in a thinly curtained room surrounded by staff workers four feet away, a room in which his assistants could enter any moment. Dr. Griffin had, in his career, performed close to 9,000 colonoscopies and endoscopies without ever having shown such proclivities -- and now, the defense argument went, of all the women he might have violated he had decided to sodomize one in this condition?... There would be an additional charge of sex abuse, on Ms. Jeffreys's complaint, that while performing her colonoscopy the doctor touched her vagina.
On the stand Ms. Jeffreys told of the apprehension she had felt about testifying, the strength she had needed to endure. As became clear early in the proceedings, the complaining witness had nothing to fear in this courtroom, where she was given singular protection from questions that might raise questions about her credibility. Judge Kahn prohibited the defense from raising instances of the complainant's alleged perjury in the civil case against her landlord, and in testimony before the Office of Professional and Medical Conduct. The defense could not raise her prior meritless litigation, her history of financial trouble, her string of bounced checks, nor could the jury know the millions she was asking in her suit against the doctor -- all issues that could establish motive and a willingness to lie for financial gain.
Shockingly, Griffin was convicted. The conviction was reversed. Shockingly, the Manhattan D.A.'s office mounted another trial:
The atmosphere of the second trial and the rulings from the bench bore small resemblance to that of the first. Unpreoccupied with imperatives like the need to encourage rape victims to come forward, Judge Jeffrey Atlas afforded the defense the standard rights of cross-examination. The judge also precluded any attempt to inject the race of the complaining witness, a black woman, as prosecutor Fleming had done at the first trial.At this trial, attorney Callan described the effects of Demerol and Versed, a drug known to produce memory loss and sexual fantasy -- noting, for instance, that women going into labor are not given Versed because its power is such it will wipe out the memory of the birth.
When it was all over, five weeks ago, and the verdict of the jury due, Dr. Griffin went to church to say a prayer and then to court where he waited, head bowed. He did not have long to wait before the jurors filed in, looking straight at him, some smiling, and then the foreman announced his acquittal. The doctor broke down in tears and there were tears, too, in the eyes of some of the jurors -- whose views of the prosecutors' case was evidently shared by the judge. After the trial, Judge Atlas asked attorney Callan why the doctor hadn't waived a jury trial.
"I would have had your client acquitted two days ago," the judge told him.
Uncertainly gathering the shards of a career, the doctor -- still stripped of his medical license -- has, as they say, no immediate plans. It will take a lot more than a license to restore the world lost to him when the tort lawyers and the District Attorney's Sex Crimes Unit descended.
via Glenn Sacks







I really feel for this guy. What a tragedy. This is why many men don't enter teaching and fields like it.
The ever-blogging Instapundit recently attended a session about abusive prosecutors.
We should certainly prosecute false accusers. We should also prosecute the prosecutors, if they break the law. The bar should sanction prosecutors, if they violate professional standards.
I live in Dallas, TX. We have released dozens and dozens of men wrongfully convicted of rape and murder in this State. Most of them were convicted under a single prosecutor from this city. He's still a free man. No charges. Nothing. It's outrageous.
Amy, thanks for your attention to this issue. You are admirably consistent.
Jeff at August 4, 2008 2:21 AM
Thanks, and I agree about prosecutors. By the way, I suggest going to the Dallas New Times paper and suggesting they do the story.
Amy Alkon at August 4, 2008 5:27 AM
I agree about the New Times angle, they are the only paper in AZ which bothers to inform people of the insane shit Arpio is trying to pull.
Recently he arrested food vendors(brown ones of course) mid mornig, and then waited until after sun down to check the carts for health code violations. I wonder how 8 hours in the sunlight with on one adding ice to keep the food chilled will effect the outcome?
lujlp at August 4, 2008 5:49 AM
Ms. Jeffrey's -- who is definitely showing a pattern -- should be sitting in jail for sure. She needs to be stopped. I don't know the law well enough to know if the circumstancial evidence is enough for a criminal trial but, man, at least, turn it around on her and sue her.
And the other chick entered a guilty plea but gets a slapped on the wrist for destroying someone's life. Definitely, that needs to carry a harsher sentence.
T's Grammy at August 4, 2008 6:59 AM
Most of the grown men/fathers I know say bluntly, "I will never coach/teach/mentor/chaperone gals or young boys unless they are my own kids or close relatives. Too risky. Lots of crazy people out there making shit up, and who will believe the guy in those situations?"
It is like the doppleganger society of those rigid societies where the women are not allowed in the company of men not in their families.
spartee at August 4, 2008 7:17 AM
Not that I am in ANY way in favor of thest two women, but for the first situation, I'm not sure that jail time is the proper punishment. Not that I think that she should get off scott-free, but how is that going to help this poor man get his life back? I don't know what a proper punishment would be, but I'm with Ahmed that a good start would be naming her in every newspaper and TV station. Maybe if she were shamed enough it would discourge other people from doing the same thing. I know if my daughter pulled something like that I would be completely humilitated.
The second case is completely stupid. They've taken the desire to not put the victim on trial to ridiculous lengths. It's one thing not to use a woman's sexual history as a weapon (she's had sex in the past, therefore she was asking for it) and quite another not to be able to show that she has a history of perjury and was using this "assault" as the basis of a multi-million civil suit. For this, jail time is justified for the fraud involved.
Kristyle at August 4, 2008 7:25 AM
I'm not sure that jail time is the proper punishment. Not that I think that she should get off scott-free, but how is that going to help this poor man get his life back? - Kristyle
You could make the same argument for all non violent felonies like theft, fraud, extortion and blackmailing
lujlp at August 4, 2008 7:42 AM
I see only two acceptable options for someone who would lie rape for personal profit, given the obscene tilting of the law in favor of "protecting the victim".
1) Public humiliation - a stint in the stocks with a sign explaining the heinous nature of the offense, and maybe a bucket of rotten tomatoes.
2) Death. Or, if you think that's too severe, then a penalty not to exceed that which would have been imposed upon the falsely accused had conviction been secured against him.
Either way, a lesson must be taught. You cannot game the system and destroy the lives of others for your own benefit.
brian at August 4, 2008 8:01 AM
Spartee is absolutely right.
P.S. The Charlottesville paper C-Ville dropped me after I wrote this column, although the editor says the complaints about it weren't why:
http://www.advicegoddess.com/ag-column-archives/2007/05/diddle-he-or-di.html
Amy Alkon at August 4, 2008 8:01 AM
It happens all over: Jury acquits Gupta of fondling former patients
Defense attorneys questioned the motivations of the former patients. One of the alleged victims filed a $5 million lawsuit against Gupta, which she dismissed in July 2006. Defense attorneys said two others clashed with Gupta after he caught them violating their narcotics agreements with Gupta's practice, and the fourth unsuccessfully sought a letter from Gupta stating that she could not work, because she wanted to avoid a child support obligation.
Luckily the Pain Management Associates doctors group he works for has said they will do everything in their power to set things right.
Jim P. at August 4, 2008 8:14 AM
"Not that I think that she should get off scott-free, but how is that going to help this poor man get his life back?"
I don't think anything is going to help him, but if her punishment is more severe, it might help the next guy. If it was widely publicized that the false accusation led to her going to jail for a few years, the next youg woman might think twice before ruining a guy's life.
This is from Wikipedia:
"General or indirect deterrence focuses on general prevention of crime by making examples of specific deviants. The individual actor is not the focus of the attempt at behavioral change, but rather receives punishment in public view in order to deter other individuals from deviance in the future. The argument that deterrence, rather than retribution, is the main justification for punishment is a hallmark of the rational choice theory and can be traced to Beccaria and Bentham."
Steamer at August 4, 2008 8:23 AM
"P.S. The Charlottesville paper C-Ville dropped me after I wrote this column, although the editor says the complaints about it weren't why: "
There seems to be more of this hyper-protectiveness towards women in the South. Come to think of it, of course there is. This is the false rape lynch mob mentality that they perfected.
Jim at August 4, 2008 10:02 AM
I completely disagree, Amy. If we prosecute women who lie about being raped there will be a chilling effect. As a result, other women will be afraid to lie about being raped. This will further empower the oppressors.
If one innocent man has his reputation ruined, or is sent to prison, then its worth it.
Tom at August 4, 2008 12:26 PM
"If one innocent man has his reputation ruined, or is sent to prison, then its worth it."
The whole basis of our justice system is laid around the idea of protecting the inncent from injustice.
Our particular legal system says it is better that 10 guilty men go free than 1 innocent man be in prison.
We do need to protect the rights of innocent men more fiercely than we presently do.
Part of the problem is that when the accusation comes out, there are immediate reprecussions, all negative. Innocent until proven guilty occurs ONLY in the court room. In the public mind, arrest or accusation alone can equal guilt.
Thus resulting in:
Loss of employment
Loss of children
Loss of family/friends
Loss of reputation
Regular harassment, not only of the accused, but of all those connected with the accused, from children to parents
And of course, loss of FREEDOM if falsely convicted.
By the way, we want women to be afraid of lying about rape. I'm going to assume though, that you made a mistake in your statement, and meant that they'll be afraid of being charged after a failed prosecution.
You don't guarantee justice for anyone when you claim one set of victims is more important than another.
Robert at August 4, 2008 1:25 PM
If you want to deter this kind of crime, and rectify it, in one fell swoop the solution is simple.
Every news agency that covered the accusation, would have to print a retraction story as large as the accusation, no little retraction blurb in a corner, they too, bear responsibility.
Every false accuser should be mandated to go on t.v. and admit to the world that they lied.
They should then be made to wear a giant sandwich sign screaming at the top of their lungs that they lied about their accuser, and hand out rotten tomatos to be thrown at themselves. They'd then have to make a personal apology to everyone connected to the accuser, from employer to daughter.
That would probably only have to happen once for the rest of the would be liars to get the point.
Robert at August 4, 2008 1:31 PM
rob, tom was obviously being sarcastic
lujlp at August 4, 2008 1:31 PM
My parents would have beaten me almost to death. "Almost" because I'd need to live to perform the 30 years of indentured servitude he and his family would be entitled to for the harm I'd done them.
The spring just before my sixth birthday I snuck into a total strangers' garden and picked some tulips and daffodils for Mother's Day. Stole them, let's be honest. Then I lied to my parents about where I got them. When I finally confessed my folks marched me down the street and had me introduce myself to the lady of the house and apologize profusely. I suspect the only reason I'm not still doing yard work for her is because we moved to another country. Its a lesson that's stuck with me for life.
Maybe my folks could adopt this little cow?
catspajamas at August 4, 2008 3:28 PM
I just love your parents, cat'sp.
Amy Alkon at August 4, 2008 7:10 PM
I remember after my mother left my father we lived at my aunts place for a little over a year. The woman next dor has a wonderful backyard garden, and a complete asshole of a son(almost 20) who constsntly harrased my cousins, myself, my 3 yr old sister and was constsnly talking shit about my mother for getting a divorce.
One day my cousin Colby(5) and I(5 as well) jumped the backyard fence and totally trashed this woman's backyard.
Her son came tearing out of her house with a hockey stick, and we scrambled back over the fence.
After each haveing a wooden spoon broken over our asses we were marched next door, made to apologise and then clean up her yard and replant her flowers.
We were threatened to do 2 hours (an eternity at that age) of work over at her house every day for the rest of the summer. But durring the backyard clean up she figured out why we had done it. Dont know if she overheard my cousin and I complaining, or if my om and aunt talked to her or if it was something her son said.
All I know is one moment everyone was watching my cousin and I cleaning and the next moent this 5'2" 50yr old lady grabs the hockey stick out of her sons hands and starts whacking him(6 foot something) on the ass with it.
My cousin and I were given a reprive from working for her for the rest of the summer, and on the way back over to my aunts place she(my aunt) said "It just goes to show you boys, it doesnt matter how big you get or how old we are, we will always get you if you do something bad"
That son of hers never said a word to any of us ever again and we never jumped the back yard fence after that. We managed to get ino all sorts of other trouble though - I remember one time when my cousin thought it would be funny to urinate on the wasps nest up in the tree. He didnt think it was quite so funny when they swarmed him causing him to fall nearly twenty feet to the ground.
God those were good times
lujlp at August 4, 2008 7:54 PM
If Rabinowitz wrote for the LAT, you just know that that story would have been all about poor Christine Jeffreys suffered.
Kate at August 4, 2008 9:51 PM
I agree, Robert. All the news outlets that picked up the story, bleated it endlessly day in and day out, and perhaps sensationalized it, should be required to air the other side of the story for an equal amount of time.
The woman should be named.
crella at August 5, 2008 12:05 AM
Amy, I just read Diddle He Or Didn’t He?
Frakkin' brilliantly done.
Jeff at August 5, 2008 12:33 AM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2008/08/04/violence_agains.html#comment-1576939">comment from JeffThank you so much. Worked my ass off on that one. (Not that I'm typically a slacker.)
Amy Alkon
at August 5, 2008 12:52 AM
Robert, great idea! Make the freaking media eat crow when they oversensationalize and it turns out they were wrong, wrong, wrong!
Can we start with Oprah?
T's Grammy at August 5, 2008 8:30 AM
Tom says :I completely disagree, Amy. If we prosecute women who lie about being raped there will be a chilling effect. As a result, other women will be afraid to lie about being raped. This will further empower the oppressors.
If one innocent man has his reputation ruined, or is sent to prison, then its worth it.
WolfmanMac says: You deserve to wake up screaming every night for the rest of your life.
WolfmanMac at August 7, 2008 3:28 PM
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