Fox & Friends
I'll be on Fox & Friends Sunday morning (around 6:50 am, PST, I think) to comment on holiday rudeness, in connection with my new book, I See Rude People
Pssst! can somebody do me a wee favor and record it? I think I'm recording it, but the time seems wrong, and I want to make sure I have it. Probably won't need your recording, but just in case!
Kill!
Crid [CridComment @ gmail] at November 22, 2009 12:49 AM
Back home already! Hope I did. They were super-nice and said I did well. Tried to say something of value, be coherent, and speak slowly enough for actual humans to understand me.
Amy Alkon at November 22, 2009 7:21 AM
Der Amy,
I have not read your book, sorry. I did read an article in the Toronto Star on rudeness. In my opinion, for the most part, rudeness is in the eye of the beholder.
If you are going to point out rudeness in others, it is important that you also mention rude behaviour that you noticed in yourself and that you corrected. Otherwise, you may come across as impolite.
Secondly, please do not take on the 'bullies' of the world. They are too scary even though, obviously, their behaviour is very rude. Only point out rudeness in those people who you feel will benefit from your insights without putting you in danger.
mp905 at November 22, 2009 8:50 AM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2009/11/22/fox_friends.html#comment-1678466">comment from mp905If you are going to point out rudeness in others, it is important that you also mention rude behaviour that you noticed in yourself and that you corrected.
I'm happy to be open about it, and am more likely to go on about my faults than keep my big yap shut about them. If you listen to the Hot Air interview Ed Morrissey did, which was a half-hour, I think I detailed a few of them. I didn't write this book because I have perfect manners: I'm rude and a jerk -- we all are. I just recognize the ways I'm rude and a jerk and try to do better. Basically, the root of manners is empathy, and I'm always thinking, "Am I bothering somebody with what I'm doing," or if I see you having a struggle at something (to reach something in a store, to get through a door), I'll leap to help you. I also try to do little things to make people not feel so alienated (in a world where we mostly see strangers all day).
And thanks for the concerns about my safety. I try to be careful.
I hope you'll consider buying my book. The Fox interview was about holiday rudeness -- I didn't get to talk at length about myself and where I go wrong or what I discovered about rudeness in general. I do detail this stuff in the book -- I hope, entertainingly.
Amy Alkon
at November 22, 2009 9:04 AM
I missed this post too late to catch you or to tape for you. Yesterday I was in the library when you came to mind. A woman was speaking very loudly while I was looking for a travel book. I turned to look at her to see what she was yelling about when I realized she was on her ear piece of a cell phone carrying on a very loud conversation. Normally I can shrug that off, but we were in the LIBRARY! She yelled and laughed for a good five minutes. I have to admit that I wimped out of calling her on it, but I was having sort of a bad day and was afraid that my correction would have turned ugly so I just walked away. Can't wait to read your book and I hope you were able to get a copy of yourself.
Kristen at November 22, 2009 10:16 AM
Too late to catch the original running. May catch it channel surfing, if they show it later.
David M. at November 22, 2009 10:55 AM
Mp905 wrote: "In my opinion, for the most part, rudeness is in the eye of the beholder."
This sounds like PC Moral Relativism that I believe is at the heart of society's problems these days. But I'm open to listening to your arguments.
Please present 2 or 3 examples of where "rudeness is in the eye of the beholder". I'm interested to understand what you mean.
Robert W. (Vancouver) at November 22, 2009 1:33 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2009/11/22/fox_friends.html#comment-1678504">comment from Robert W. (Vancouver)Great question, Robert W. - just glossed over that.
Amy Alkon
at November 22, 2009 2:24 PM
I really would like some examples from him/her. Failure to do so just tells me that the statement is completely false.
Robert W. (Vancouver) at November 22, 2009 11:37 PM
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