Evil HR Lady Slaps Them Upside The Head With The Reality Stick
Suzanne Lucas, aka Evil HR Lady, reports on her blog that six women have filed a sex discrimination lawsuit against Bayer. She had a problem with their claim #14, as do I. Lucas quotes from the Bayer ladies' claim:
"The few women who have advanced beyond the director level and into the highest echelon of management have achieved this rank by sacrificing their personal lives and abandoning work-life balance. Female Vice President of Global Health Economics and Outcomes Research Kathleen Gondek is unmarried with no children, female Senior Director Susan Herster has no children and female Vice Presidents Shannon Campbell and Leslie North have others who serve as primary care-givers to their children."
Lucas' take on it (echoing my thinking):
And this is a problem because? Ladies, let me give you a dose of reality: Climbing into the executive ranks of a major pharmaceutical company requires the abandonment of work-life balance for men too.
Do you really think that the male vice presidents are running when the school calls to say that little Paisley has just puked all over her desk? If you can show me that they are, then I apologize but I suspect if that were the case, it would have been documented in the lengthy complaint. My guess is that their wives/ex-wives/mothers-in-law or nannies are running to pick up Paisley.
If you choose to be the primary caregiver to children (and yes, it is a choice), you get the consequences along with it. One of those consequences is that you cannot spend as much time working as can your coworkers who are not the primary caregivers. I know that not everyone needs the same amount of time to accomplish the same tasks. But, when you have to skip out of a meeting because daycare is closing in 15 minutes, it's going to affect your career.
Smart chickie, Evil HR Lady. And I love the name.
My neighbor, who is the mom of two kids and has a third on the way, usually meets me on Sunday to hang out and write. She's been working very hard on a Y.A. novel for a number of years, and it's actually quite good.
She's trained as an architect (and designed some very cool restaurant and business interiors), but has been a stay-at-home-mom for 11 years. That's job one for her. And that's why, last Sunday, I threw my computer on my back and got to Starbucks at 9:30, and she got there at 2:30 -- after she made pancakes, shopped for her family's meals for the week, and helped her husband put together new beds for the two kids they already have.
Sorry, ladies, but you just can't have it all. Not out here in the real world.