Get The Podcast! Advice Goddess Radio: Dr. Michael Mills, Why Women Shouldn't Ask Men On Dates And Other Sex-Based Differences
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Last night was a fascinating show with Loyola evolutionary psychology professor Dr. Michael Mills, who explained a lot about the ways we're biologically and psychologically different, and the ways that should guide or mating and dating behavior.
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http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2012/03/19/advice-goddess-radio-amy-alkon
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Here's the terrific book he co-authored with Susan Shapiro: Unhooked: How to Quit Anything
The key phrase is "heavy flirting". Women need to show interest; give a specific man signals that she won't shoot him down if he asks her out.
The fear many, perhaps most, men have isn't being simply turned down, but being humiliated while being turned down. For example, in high school the fear isn't being turned down, but that the girl will tell all her friends in a mocking way.
Flirting is a lost art.
Joe at March 19, 2012 8:19 AM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/03/19/get_the_podcast_5.html#comment-3082358">comment from JoeI could see Gregg was a quiet (introverted) guy when I first met him at the Apple store, so I FLIRTED MY ASS OFF. After we'd been together a while, I asked him if he knew I liked him: "Either you liked me or you had rabies," he said. Which is how it should be. If the flirting is just flirting, and unspoken -- never "I like you," etc., in so many words -- there's plausible deniability.
Amy Alkon
at March 19, 2012 8:31 AM
Flirting is a lost art.
So is being a man
lujlp at March 19, 2012 8:32 AM
Great show, Amy.
This episode was particularly interesting when Dr. Mills pointed out that there is a reason why male guards their females and try to control them.
In every single culture, there is a tendency to control the females' sexual activity as the males want to ensure she is giving a birth to his child. I realize that females don't have this problem as she just watched the baby coming out of her body. Of course the baby is carrying her genes but how her husband knows for sure the baby is carrying his genes?
I am not condoning how most cultures treat their women as a second class citizen but at least I now understand the origin of the desire to control the women.
After all, Virgin Mary carried someone else's child but Jeseph's.
chang at March 19, 2012 8:07 PM
After all, Virgin Mary carried someone else's child but Joseph's.
Posted by: chang at March 19, 2012 8:07 PM
How do you know that?
What sense does it make to talk about Joseph's ancestry, as the Bible does, unless......
It amazes me the way those who don't believe in the virgin birth (and I'm one of them) would rather believe the worst rather than the best, out of sheer luridness. After all, if Jesus was mortal and not Joseph's son, would he have stayed with Mary even if she'd been raped? Unlikely.
lenona at March 20, 2012 7:30 AM
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