Victim-Feminism is Feminism. Many reasonable people think Feminism is about making women strong and independent. Or, "used to be" until recently. No such thing is true. It has always been intended as a movement to free women from traditional obligations while strengthening her traditional privileges with government largesse. Feminists making a claim of promoting female strength are either dupes or pushing a Trojan Horse.

I've been bitching about this for years, I was one of those girls in high school when all the bra-burning, how-dare-you-open-a-door-for-me crap got started, and I never thought it would lead to where we are today. Thankfully, I never joined any movements either.

I have also pointed out that single moms on welfare are just trading one controlling patriarchal figure for another one, but nobody wants to hear it.

Just like mentioning that keeping your own last name simply means keeping daddy's name instead of hubby's. Or grandpa's, or however far back it goes. Unless you changed it legally.

Oh, well. We're going to hell in a handbasket, whatever that means. If I want to see a strong female figure, I guess I'll have to watch an old Ma & Pa Kettle movie.

http://i.imgur.com/A8CIarJ.jpg

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I feel sorry for the guy, he doesn't know. He doesn't know there is a police report on him. I'm hoping the police didn't make one but they covered their ass and probably did.
In a week or month when he sees her, he may try to hit on her for real, and she will hit him with a stalker charge.

And yet, people keep asking why men are opting out of sex/dating and going "grass eater" like those dudes in Japan.

"Luckily, when you project strength rather than weakness, people generally realize you aren't worth fucking with."

Very true. In my case, it's generally a good bluff. I remember walking home from school with a friend and seeing we were headed for some boys having a snowball fight. Resigned, I just kept walking. My friend crossed the street.

A boy yelled "Let's get the chicken!" I passed unscathed while they lobbed snowballs at her. These boys weren't interested in harassing us past the point of their war, fortunately.

She was a little pissed at me, go figure. She knew what a wuss I was. Ah, memory lane. My life has been a lot like that. I'm not a strong woman, I just pretty much do what seems right to me, and women get mad at me.

I saw a film in high school that had a lingering effect, showing us how to not walk like a victim. I was glad to see I already walked like a non-victim. Grandma's nagging had paid off. (She watched me out the window as I walked to school, and rapped on the glass if I was scuffing my feet or looking at the ground.)

This is actually as good a place as any to ask this of women in general: Has anybody in real life ever said to their guy, "Are you going to let him talk to me like that?" Just asking. I've never known it in real life, and I can't imagine not taking care of the situation myself, so I'm curious.

Everyone,

I once wore a pair of $600 high heels my momma gave me for several weeks.

A guy left a note on my car

"I see your beautiful shoes everyday and see your face and think what a beautiful woman you are. You must have a rich husband to buy you those shoes"

The rest was creepy shit, like how he wanted me to step on his balls with my expensive shoes.

The note cracked me up.

By the way there was no chance the guy could do anything to me. It was a very public place (with tons of people) during business hours.

BTW My friend got a similar note too, except he requested no ball stepping, only if he could smell her shoes after she was done working.

The note doesn't seem flirty to me, but I wouldn't call the cops. But, it does seem that most young white, educated women believe authority figures will solve everything, just like their parents used to do. I never really believed that my teachers or professors wanted me to excel. I never believed that my boss wanted me to achieve. I don't particularly believe
that the police are going to protect me. I know that bureaucrats aren't going to assist me.
And as for " No one likes you"--if you can't teach 'em respect, teach 'em fear.

Just like mentioning that keeping your own last name simply means keeping daddy's name instead of hubby's. Or grandpa's, or however far back it goes. Unless you changed it legally.

Posted by: Pricklypear at October 26, 2013 12:00 PM
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Er, a boy's name is HIS name, not just his daddy's.

So why is it "daddy's name" when the child happens to be a girl?

Besides, daddy didn't get to choose his name either, so how is it HIS name?

While Miss Manners would likely not approve of the woman's jumping to the worst conclusions AND being so openly hostile, paranoid, and damsel-like about it, MM would hardly have much sympathy for the impatient anonymous man either - and rightly so. As she wrote in the "Courtship and Romance: Methods of Meeting" section in her book "Miss Manners' Guide for the Turn-of-the-Millennium":

"....society is not being snobbish when it insists on introductions and knowing who people are before becoming even socially intimate with them.

"Even this does not totally erase risk. Victorian gossip is full of stories about innocent brides receiving unpleasant diseases from their parent- chosen bridegrooms. But it is nevertheless a general rule of human nature that people are more fastidious about the welfare of others when their behavior is a part of their permanent social records."

And her last line (in the newspaper column) was: "Find someone who can introduce you to this person."

And elsewhere (in 1990), MM pointed out that there are more than a few reasons for people in general to avoid, politely, those to whom they have not been formally introduced:

"Dear Miss Manners: I met a fellow from out
of town without a proper introduction, and after three months of living with me, he adamantly refused to tell me what he did (or had done) for a living, attributing to Miss Manners that my asking was being rude.

"Two months later I asked him to leave, because he wasn`t significantly contributing to the well-being of the household. When I moved to his state (I sent out moving announcements) half a year later, his concerned mother tracked me down, looking for him. Among other things, she informed me that this well-educated, upper-middle-class fellow had been living in his car for five years.

"Was it incorrect of me to ask what he did?"

"Gentle Reader-Now have you learned the value of proper introductions?

"Good. The next lesson is not to take etiquette advice, even if it spuriously carries an impeccable name, from those to whom you have not been properly introduced.

"Intimate questions may be asked by those on intimate terms. But in this case, even Miss Manners could have figured out the answer without asking."

I think the note was kind of chickenshit bordering on creepy in the "I know where you live, what you drive and I'm watching you" way.

This man set himself up to be rejected in 4 ways:

1. Things left on your windshield tend to be unpleasant: Tickets, apologies for damaging your car, spam, anonymous complaints. If you want to meet someone, it's smart to avoid unpleasant associations.

2. It's also unpleasant to feel that a stranger has been watching you, knows your car, probably knows exactly where you live, and may even have been watching as you read his note. Even if he just noticed her yesterday and it was meant completely innocently, again, not a smart move. And if she or someone she knows has been stalked, it goes beyond "not smart" to frightening.

3. What happened to all the advice to man up and talk to women? I remember a column where a man was told he shouldn't give his card to women and ask them to contact him. This is worse. He didn't even hand this to her in person.

Why couldn't he "happen" to walk by her and say hello a few times, then introduce himself and start a conversation? Or get an introduction.

4. He already knows he's attracted to her. She doesn't know if she's attracted to him. If she contacts him, she's telling him she's available and willing to meet someone. If they meet and it turns out she's not interested, it's going to be harder to extract herself without upsetting him.

In her situation, I wouldn't contact the police, but I would keep the note and would tell people about it. I would tell this man (or preferably have someone else tell him) I was involved with someone (whether I was or not) and refuse to give any further information.

My husband, not exactly a radical feminist, *would* have advised her to contact the police. Quote: "With all the nuts out there, you don't know who this guy is. Why didn't he just talk to her?"